Gentlemen,

I write to you today regarding the changes going on with our pregnant wife’s hormones and my opinion on how to best deal with the challenges this process may present.

It’s no secret that I love my wife, nor should it be. Anyone that’s even remotely close to my family will tell you this. First and foremost, I have to understand, and come to terms with, the fact that I’ll never fully understand what Mrs. Lone Star is going through. Her body is changing in drastic ways which can make some women self-conscious, uncomfortable or even depressed. Luckily, I didn’t get that vibe from Mrs. Lone Star.

The hormone changes going on in my wife are very real. Since men normally tend to be more logical (in my opinion), this can present a problem for us. I’ve been told countless times that I’m a very black and white person. What’s right is right; what’s wrong is wrong. That sort of thing. However, when it came to this pregnancy, I had to learn how to be understanding and compassionate, even when the situation didn’t make much logical sense to me. I didn’t need to learn this for my own well-being (although I’m sure it helps). I needed to learn this in order to be the best husband I could be for my wife through this rapidly evolving time in her life.

Remember, we entered into a covenant relationship with our respective wives. Part of that covenant relationship is to be there for her through thick and thin, good and bad, happiness and sadness, etc. In order for us to answer the call, we need to comfort, reassure and encourage our wives.

I can personally recall times during the pregnancy when Mrs. Lone Star got very emotional about something I said and it was mildly unpleasant, to be honest. I would insist that we sit down and talk about it to find what went wrong. In almost every case, it was a simple misunderstanding. I would give her a kiss. We would hug. Then, I would reassure her that I love her more than anything in the world.

In conclusion, communication, compassion and understanding are key skills to hone during these hormonal changes. Never let something brew in your mind. Talk it out with your wife. Most importantly, NEVER go to bed angry. You and your wife are expecting a precious bundle of joy. You need to be a united front of positive examples and bulwark of protection for your little one when they arrive.

– The Lone Star Dad